Sir Alf
3:28 Wed Nov 30
Re: Most people I know are unhappy
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Northern Sold 12:46 Wed Nov 30
Ag !!
:-)
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Russ of the BML
3:26 Wed Nov 30
Re: Most people I know are unhappy
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Alf's post is very good and some good advice given.
But I tend to find that happiness comes from accepting your lot. And when you can do that you tend to find you relax and enjoy life more.
You will also find unless you have experienced traumatic times and misery can't genuinely find true happiness.
I have my moments when I think things are shit and things / people get on your nerves. Hate your job, wish you'd done this and that and made different decisions. We all have our moments.
But the be all and end all is that when I look around the world I don't have it bad at all. Me, my wife, my kids are healthy. We aren't rich at all but we don't want for much. We have all our basic human wants like a roof, warmth, food and much more to be fair. We go away once or twice a year and currently getting work done on the house.
I accepted some time ago that this is about as good as it gets for me. I could crave more, want more and aspire to be something or someone better or more influential but what I have now is really what I will only ever have. I accept that and I am happy with it.
Both me and my wife have experienced heartache and misery. I lost my mum when I was 27 and not even sure if I coped with it very well. I was sure not really much help to my dad so I thank god my older sister took the reins. But when I look back now I know it made me a stronger and better person in the long run.
I wish my mum had seen me get married, have kids, buy a house, get promoted etc etc. But she didn't. That could make me sad. It used to. But now I accept it and use what I learnt to guide and advise others who have recently experienced loss.
I am not happy because of others misery and life of poverty or trouble. But there is definitely something in always remembering; there are always people worse off or with bigger shit going on than you.
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gazamma
2:44 Wed Nov 30
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Tha'ts because they know you Bruuuno
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ray winstone
1:35 Wed Nov 30
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Tory Britain. 😉
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HairyHammer
12:55 Wed Nov 30
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Private Dancer 12.36
These day's you are not wrong even families moan fight and back stab but a lot of it can be down to ourselves it is a bit like this site you can take the bait or sit back and contemplate whether the person trying to reel you in is worth a shit.
I prefer not to take some of my family too seriously that way you can survive the silliness and jealousy.
But your wife and kids are the main ones to truly love and think strongly about and obviously Mum and dad too, brothers and sisters can sometimes be a chore its all about luck I guess.
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Northern Sold
12:46 Wed Nov 30
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bruuuuno... do you think perhaps it's fucking you that makes everyone miserable... ??
Oh and regarding reading Sir Alf's posts... behave... I only have 30 mins lunch break...
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mashed in maryland
12:40 Wed Nov 30
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Re Alf's posts, I do think the breakdown of the traditional family has really fucked our society up, but I definitely don't think that the answer to all life's problems is to ignore your own ambitions and needs and just focus on spending time with relatives.
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Private Dancer
12:36 Wed Nov 30
Re: Most people I know are unhappy
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I liked Alf's post, but I don't really see it how he does ref spending more time/concentrating on family to find true happiness, I think that's a falacy and simply not true. IMO most families end up getting on each others nerves and just end up bickering and gossiping about each other...Although I think a lot of Northerners still have some old fashioned family values.
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HairyHammer
12:30 Wed Nov 30
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Sir Alf 10:03
"Hear Hear", brilliantly written Sir Alf.
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HairyHammer
12:24 Wed Nov 30
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riosleftsock 9.18
Did you purposely forget the ' Brexit will make GB great again society' ?
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Johnson
12:23 Wed Nov 30
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Nah, you're alright overbyyer, I'll stick to goading the cowardly cuckold Hammer and Thickle if it's all the same to you.
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overbyyer
12:21 Wed Nov 30
Re: Most people I know are unhappy
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Johnson wrote...
Re: Most people I know are unhappy
How much fear and despair does one feel when one's wife is fucking the local karate instructor, Thickle?
What a nasty piece of work you are.
You should read Sir Alf's post of 10.03 then take a good look at yourself in the mirror.
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HairyHammer
12:21 Wed Nov 30
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Are these people you know West ham fans by any chance ?
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mashed in maryland
11:16 Wed Nov 30
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All I'm gonna say to that is; when someone uses phrases like "offer the poison" as part of an elaborate paranoid conspiracy web involving people off the internet working for the far right and/or Russian government in order to subvert modern civilisation by posting on WHO, I genuinely worry for their mental health.
Wouldn't surprise me if we read about H&P's suicide in the next year or so.
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Hammer and Pickle
11:08 Wed Nov 30
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They can only offer the poison - it's up to you whether you take it or not.
Enjoy your day.
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Johnson
11:06 Wed Nov 30
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How much fear and despair does one feel when one's wife is fucking the local karate instructor, Thickle?
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mashed in maryland
11:05 Wed Nov 30
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"Take for example today's story about the arrested Muslim intelligence operative in Germany. The far right numpty posting on here expects us to see this as how useless the German services are at dealing with infiltration threats, which is the exact opposite of what has taken place. "
Never fear bruu, some people's lives are so empty and lonely that they have to post something like that about something mentioned on another thread in order to give themselves a positivity kick.
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Hammer and Pickle
11:00 Wed Nov 30
Re: Most people I know are unhappy
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How the news is force-interpreted to create negative impressions about our institutions and certain groups of people, especially muslims. This happens ALL the time.
Take for example today's story about the arrested Muslim intelligence operative in Germany. The far right numpty posting on here expects us to see this as how useless the German services are at dealing with infiltration threats, which is the exact opposite of what has taken place.
The desired effect is a combination of fear and despair and it's so important not to take this poison.
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jammydee
10:48 Wed Nov 30
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Gayers seem to be happy. Perhaps this is the secret to happiness?
Anyone fancy a bum?
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Sir Alf
10:42 Wed Nov 30
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PD - we all get that mate.
I talk a good fight but have been conditioned like everyone else into consuming sh*t I dont need with money I don't have :-)
You have to keep reminding yourself that the society we live in and the culture we see nowadays is increasingly narcissistic and unfortunately an extension of "American Dream" model. I lived there for 10 years and its is frightening how indoctrinated that nation is from the time they exit the womb. We are seeing our younger generation increasingly sucked into this via Facebook, social media which are unsurprisingly of American origin and design.
What governments and the rich elite fear is free thinking and critical thinking. Fortunately, secular societies we live in (unlike the States and other parts of the world) still allow more of this but the media, corporates and their owners, govts use it to make independent thought difficult psychologically.
Its a long watch but everyone should at least look at "Century of the Self". Its an older documentary by a sage of our times by the name of Adam Curtis (Bitter Lake etc).
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Century+of+the+Self
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SecondOpinion
10:37 Wed Nov 30
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I don't do the following:
Read newspapers
Watch the news on telly
Engage in social media (except for this site occasionally)
Listen to gossip at work
Take recreational drugs
Drink
Confrontation
I'm fucking miserable
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